Is CA Sex Ed. Grooming Children?

How does an adult groom a child he is sexually attracted to? First, the predator knows the process takes time and repetition. He chooses his target let’s say, a 1st grader, a typical 7 year old. He begins by making the child feel special – giving praise and attention.

By 2nd grade (age 8), the predator will be a familiar presence in the child’s life. Enough that casually touching the child in the presence of his/her parents causes the child to think, "This person touching me is okay with Mom and Dad." It isn’t sexual in the beginning -- it can be as simple as draping an arm over the shoulder or getting a goodbye-hug.

By 5th grade (age 10), the predator convinces the child, he or she can choose for themselves what they want to do. The predator purports to be someone the child can trust with feelings, secrets or desires they might be embarrassed to tell Mom and Dad.

By 7th grade (age 12), the first physical contact is often nonsexual, like an “accidental” bump or rub, rubbing the shoulders, or brushing their hair. These are innocuous enough to desensitize the child. A child’s natural curiosity about sex can be exploited by “dirty” jokes, access to pornography or playing sexual games.

By 9th grade (age 14), the predator has become a sympathetic listener when parents, friends and others disappoint the child. Some predators provide drugs, alcohol or a “place to hang out” unsupervised. They share secrets with the child, to encourage the belief that the child is trusted as a peer and above all others. The predator acts a protector, expressing outrage or empathy when bad things happen, and inserting themselves between the child and the parent.

Eventually, the predator asks for something in return for he has done -- typically the giving or receiving of a sexual act. The child’s biological response and chemical reward system with hardwire the desire to repeat the “pleasure” of the experience. Revulsion, disgust and fear actually amplify the dopamine blast, causing neural imprinting, and creating a strong bond between victim and perpetrator.

It’s horrifyingly insidious to contemplate, isn’t it?

What if I told you, that exact pattern of grooming is what the Health Education Framework recommends? You might think I was exaggerat