Promoting sexual self-control often reveals how short-sighted people can be. For instance, when talking to a non-religious person (NRP)...
NRP: How do you convince public school kids to not have sex if you can't say "God says so"?
PW: "God says so" is certainly one argument, but it's not the only one.
NRP: I guess you can still scare them with unexpected pregnancy and STIs, but there's protection against that stuff now!
PW: The physical consequences are pretty scary -- especially when you consider how often "protection" doesn't protect. But again, that's only one aspect of the benefits of sexual self-control.
NRP: If its not a religious argument or scare tactics, what else is there?
PW: We talk about how being in control of your sexual impulses helps young people achieve their life goals -- whether its a specific career or a strong marriage. We show them that choosing not to use others for sex will inspire them to develop important conversational and relationship skills. And we connect it to one thing everyone wants: how to know if your partner will cheat on you. When someone with an established habit of sexual self-control legally swears to be faithful, there's a reason to believe they can do it. Unlike those who are sexually active -- their vows are little more than wishful thinking.
Conversations like that always seem to surprise non-religious adults. But, honestly, conversations with religious people (RP) can be just as short-sighted...
RP: My kids know God says wait until marriage. That's enough to keep them pure when they walk down the aisle.
PW: It's important for children to know God has set boundaries for sex, of course. But to adopt the biblical standard a