This is how the meeting with his staff went They had 3 main misconceptions which needed to be addressed.
Their misconception: This was an “abstinence only” curriculum.
Our clarification: We never even use the word "abstinence." In truth, we are not offering a curriculum at all, but rather, we use our personal story to help teens process the material the curriculum covered.
Their misconception: Since girls were told they could say one thing (to receive the pin) and boys were told another, students thought we were “gender-typing.”
Our clarification: We chose to divide the girls and the boys to be sure some of the students would receive a pin from Jim -
Their misconception: They were not familiar with the imprinting process of sexual experiences and suspected it was “unscientific.”
Our clarification: The section regarding bonding hormones and the Teen Brain is based on multiple current scientific studies. [I referred them to Hooked: New Science on How Casual Sex is Affecting Our Children by Freda McKissic Bush, M.D., and Joe S. McIlhaney Jr M.D., as well as American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry: Teen Brains, and the research of Dr. Jay Giedd at the Kavli Institute for Brain and Mind (among many others)].
We also talked through several issues and agreed there were some areas we could make adjustments.
- For instance, we agreed most of the parental and student concerns would probably not have been raised if all the other components of the curriculum had been presented first. Therefore, future Positively Waiting presentations will be scheduled when all the other curriculum requirements have been met.
- We agreed we will not divide the students by gender to receive the pin (with apologies to Jim), or have a different "declaration" to receive it. "My love is worth waiting for" was agreeable to both of us.
- We agreed to adjust the section on teen brain development to emphasize the impact of pornography on brain development instead of first sexual experience imprinting.
- We agreed Jim and Karen will only address the areas in which we have expertise -- our personal experience. We will not discuss sexual identity or same-sex relationships where we have no first-hand knowledge, except to say that the benefits of sexual self-control are the SAME for all adolescents (regardless of attraction or gender), and there are NO benefits to sexual activity as a teen.
- We agreed there would be no requirement for us to endorse condom use or direct students to access to condoms.
FINAL NOTE: as of this printing, we have NOT been contacted by anyone at GHCHS to schedule a Spring 2018 date or Spring 2019 date. If you want to send Principal Bauer an email, click here. Thank you for your support!!