In order to connect behaviors to their predictable consequences, a teen needs reward and repetition. Repetition to build a solid neural network and reward to make it a pleasant experience they will want to repeat.
Since that has been a regular feature for several years, we finally put them all together into an FREE ebook. You can download your copy here, www.PositivelyWaiting.com — go to “Book-N-Stuff” enter some info and get a link.
The objective is to get you and your teens regularly engaged in conversations that will help with brain maturation and self-control. Please don’t put it off, thinking there will be time later,
First of all, by the time you become aware, they will have already been exposed to many points of view that may not reflect your values. The age at which children are exposed to some form of pornography is about 8 years old now.
Secondly, when your child IS interested in a relationship is the point at which YOUR voice will matter the least. Trying to begin directing conversations while your child is obsessing over someone, if pointless. It has to start long before they have an interest in order to override the powerful impulses that will bouncing around in their head.
But those conversations don’t have to have anything to do with “what goes where,” or birth control, or the proper way to use a condom. As you will see from the Coaching Exercises, the dialogues you want to be having should be more along the lines of not using people for sex and what it takes for a relationship to work.