I remember I said, “That’s not true. It’s possible she’s already overwhelmed by memories and doesn’t want to add any more. Maybe she wants to avoid the stress of handing off the dog, since you two haven’t seen each other since the split. The dog is old and sickly, so maybe she thinks its too much for him. There ARE reasons to object, whether you think those are legitimate objection or not.”
The men in the group all (grudgingly) agreed there could be reasons they had not considered.
I remembered that experience when I read the March 2017 Forbes article by Susannah Breslin, “Wonder Woman Doesn’t Have Armpit Hair Because Women’s Bodies Freak Men Out.” It wasn’t a particularly compelling argument. Anyone who assumes a preference for smooth armpits to furry ones is because women’s bodies freak men out obviously doesn’t know much about men.
For instance, saying, “The only reason a wife would make her husband’s dinner is because she fears getting beaten if she does not.” Most people would think, “Wait a minute — what if she loves to cook?!” Or, “The only reason children are ever obedient or affectionate is because they want something,” you might think, “Depends on the child!”
The point is: your children are often told there is only ONE reason for certain behaviors. Don’t want boys and girls to share bathrooms & locker rooms? Must hate LGBTQs! Honor Western values such as free speech, freedom of religion, rule of law? Must be a bigot! Believe there are a variety of factors including preferred professions which explain the “gender gap” in pay? Must be anti-women!
There is almost never a solitary reason, explanation or justification for anything humans do. We are a product of our experiences, environment, education and culture — a cornucopia of complex influences!
It is in your interest, and certainly in the interest of your developing teen, to dig deeper and explore all the factors behind social events or human behavior. When adults, society or culture implies everyone who acts, thinks or votes a certain way can be put in a box and labelled, we do them a great disservice.
I hope you agree.