Next week is the first of our FOUR summer events talking about pornography. We will be in Santa Clarita, CA at the Bouquet Canyon Elementary School at 7 pm. We have had a few questions come up as we promote these event, so they might be on your mind too...
IS THIS FOR ADULTS OR TEENS?
This is one we want both. Our normal presentations we like to do just youth and just parents because the needs are different. Teens need to know how their decisions will impact their future. Parents need to know how teens process and make decisions about sex. Its not the same talk.
But this is different. Pornography affects us all, as individuals and as families. As much as we appreciate your confidence in us, we know everyone will feel more comfortable if parents know exactly what their teens have been told, and are available to talk afterward.
WHAT KIND OF VISUALS AND LANGUAGE SHOULD I BE PREPARED FOR?
Perfectly understandable if you are concerned about being assaulted by "examples" of pornography, or a discussion that makes a son uncomfortable to be sitting next to Mom! You can put those fears to rest, unless you would rather die than be in a room where you might hear the word "masturbate" or "erectile dysfunction." Those words are about as awkward as it gets.
The picture with this blog is the "symbol" we're using to refer to porn as a concept throughout the seminar. The only other visual is a short animated video about human trafficking. (If you are concerned at all, please preview it.)
MY CHILD IS PRETEEN, IS THAT TOO YOUNG TO ATTEND?
Depends. They are not too young if
- They have been asking questions about sex, love and relationships.
- They have already seen material you wish they hadn't.
- They have a friend whose house you "won't let them play at" because of this issue.
Better to deal with this topic before Hormone Hell, than waiting until someone has an attitude and trying to establish guidelines. However, for the sake of the other participants, small children with a coloring book (do they still make those?) or handheld electronic devise is NOT appropriate. You wouldn't want your child's presence to prevent someone else from asking for help.
THERE ARE FOUR DATES/LOCATIONS. DO I NEED TO ATTEND ALL FOUR?
No! We are simply presenting the same material in the communities where we have been serving for decades. We didn't want Los Angeles traffic to be a reason someone would decide not to come. And we know people have full schedules.
I'M BRINGING A CARLOAD OF KIDS. DO I PAY $5 PER CHILD?
This is a free event. Carloads of teens are totally welcome, even encouraged!
But Positively Waiting is a very small organization with very limited resources, so we suggested a donation of $5 for the printed resource materials. We are just hoping to cover the costs of paper, ink, refreshments, etc. But NO ONE will be denied the materials or admission if they can't make a donation.
Unfortunately, we might not have a Spanish version of the printed materials, but we will have an interpreter. Still working on this.
There is STILL time to register, or persuade your youth group leaders, this is a worthy alternative to your regular youth night.